Set strong and sensible limits
with your little boundary pusher.
It’s exhausting to parent a child that does not listen to you.
Your brilliant negotiator makes you second guess yourself with their creative loopholes, relentless arguments and constant pushback.
They wear you down with their persistence.
You feel guilty enforcing consequences that might not be reasonable so you second-guess yourself often.
It’s impossible to be consistent when you are drained, anxious or tapped out. You avoid following through because you know the drama that comes with conflict. You walk on eggshells in your own home.
You’re weary from the battles and want peace in your home, but your child resists the structure you long for.
Setting limits with your Spicy One™ doesn’t have to escalate to a battle of wills!
Ready to create a plan for setting and following through on important house rules?
With practice (and lots of love), I know you can set limits that actually work.
Let me show you how.
Hi, I’m Mary Van Geffen, and I’m a mom just like you.
Parenting my children did not come naturally to me. I had no idea what it looked like to stay tender in the midst of defiance and unexplainable explosive emotions. In the early years, there was a lot of yelling, disrespect and anger… from both of us.
Then, when my Spicy One™ turned 5, I started a life-changing spiritual journey to see the goodness of my child. I was determined to stay calm, kind and firm no matter what they were doing! This deep work into my own childhood and non-violent communication techniques allowed me to make space for the exceptional young adults my children have become.
My great joy is to now serve families struggling like mine once did and support them in their own healing journeys. I’ve coached hundreds of moms across the globe to transform the relationship they have with their larger-than-life kids.
Imagine…
>> Setting warm grace-filled limits and letting the less important stuff slide.
>> Your child feeling safe and seen by you even as they grieve family rules that matter enough to follow-through on.
>> Your home being a peaceful refuge from the world where everyone learns to balance flexibility with healthy conflict.
In this class, you will learn to…
Identify what’s blocking you from setting more effective limits with your boss babe
Prepare, set and follow through on warm boundaries
Navigate the tension between being flexible and consistent
Stay clear on your vision of what matters most in your home
Here’s what’s included:
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LIVE Class with Mary plus Q&A at the end
Enjoy 60 minutes of engaging instruction followed by up to 30 minutes to asnwer questions that will help everyone to grasp the material.
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Worksheet
A printable worksheet to help you stay engaged with the content, take notes that will makes sense later and ask yourself important personal reflection questions.
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Lifetime Access
The recording of the class will be viewable within 24 hours and accessible as long as I am in this business. Login to Teachable.com for a refresher anytime.
What if it was possible to consistently and warmly follow through on limits with your child without feeling exhausted by the power struggle?
“Mary has changed my relationship to setting boundaries!
I used to be rigid and see disrespect when my children got emotional about a limit I was setting. Often, I would abandon the work of holding a boundary and feel angry at the kids and myself.
Now I’m more flexible and have a grace for their hard time while still keeping firm with what I need.”
—MALSI
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Firm is a skill you can learn, and it can be done with love and warmth.
Let’s get you on your way.
Frequently asked questions:
How long will I have access to the recording?
For as long as I’m doing this work!
What age child does this curriculum apply to?
These techniques and strategies are best for children aged 2 - 10.
When will the recording be available?
Within 24 hours of the LIVE class happening Saturday May 18th at 8:30am pt.
How is this different from Mary’s other courses?
This is one of a trio of the core classes helpful in becoming an effective parent: Calm, Firm and Kind:
Have further questions? Send the team an email here.
Testimonials
“You really helped me pause and recalibrate. It is the most important gift I’m giving my family — to have ‘confidence rooted in love and joy’ that allows me to be calm when they are extra spicy sometimes, freedom to have allllllll the feelings, and to give grace with boundaries. YOU are doing sacred work. Thank you — though I’m sure my family thanks you more!
—Natalie
“I learned how to give up control of things that don’t truly matter — like choosing his outfits and appearance. Mary noticed the pleading tone in my voice that I sometimes use to set boundaries and helped me find a more confident approach… I’ve gone from being tight-fisted to openhanded. I’m a steward of this child and I know he’s a blessing in his spiciness.”
—Mirriam